Hello
Done too much the last few days as it was my brother in laws wedding and there is lots going on in the personal stuff and plus we are moving home again today after the builders have finished I am so so tired and WOW I hurt.
My in laws- well. They are a very "different" sort of family to mine.... mine are not perfect but Im afraid to say that my in laws are the most selfish people I have ever met.
I KNEW they wouldnt help with Bernie and Richard said "of course they will" but he was off being best man for his brother (whos a nice guy) and It was me and Michael basically with a lively and excited flower girl whos nearly 4.
Perfect strangers are offering to help but richards parents? they just sat there. At one point I asked for them to hold Bs hand while I just found a way of being propped up for a standing photo and my father in law harrumphed and mock rolled his eyes and when B reached for his hand he went "urgh" and pulled his hand away. I think he thinks hes joking but B didnt know what to do poor little love. What a complete arse that man is...
You know, they live 2 mins from our door and we never see them. They have nothing going on in their lives- not brilliant health wise but have no friends and never go out. Just miserable miserly miserable people. Have stacks of £ and store it all... we struggle but you know what its not about the £. Its about how miserly they are about their very lives.
Oh Im cross about them today.
I have told richard I dont want them at Bs birthday this yr. they dont help and will try and give me a voucher of a tenner for Bs present. They always give a voucher as they cant be bothered to choose a present and I end up getting her something and putting the £10 towards it. You know what, if they actually invested in their grandchildren they would KNOW what to get B wouldnt they? Im not playing the game anymore.
They think there is nothing wrong with their behaviour at all. I have asked Richard to tell them because right now I dont want anything to do with them. For them its all too much trouble and Im fed up with having our children and us let down.
Sometime ago they did say they wanted to be more involved so we set up numerous chances for them to come out with us, take the children to things (I bought all the tickets) etc. But they constantly moaned. Took them to a bonfire night and stood in silence mostly apart from moaning about the noise and chill. Id paid £20 for them to take the older 2 and there was a hot dog stand and they didn't get the children one- even though I said if they wanted something Id pay them back. Moaned all the way and I had 2 stunned looking children on the doorstep after 40 mins....
Ask to join us in the country park for a picnic and frisbee? No- they cant come. Yes they do have a car... but they have a free bus pass and cant use that to get to the country park so dont come.
They camp places- our children would LOVe TO go but they havent ever even asked them to visit let alone stay.
ASked to help getting G to an appointment when Im in hospital- no cant possibly. Why? because thats the day they go to sainsburys and the other date is when they are going for a walk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The last straw was last yr for Bernices birthday cake- youd think Id asked them to trudge bare foot through snow ice and blizzards and grow the bloody flour.... I just rang and asked if we could collect the cake the night before and was told it wasnt ready yet so I asked what they were doing that night. None of my business apparently what they choose to do or not to do.....
Then the cake was a sponge with a pre printed icing of Mr Tumble that they had bought ready done.
MIL loves baking and I really did think they would like to do it.
but no
Its all too much trouble for them in their lives...
They have cocoa at 8.35pm after their showers....
Honestly youd think they were older than my grandparents....
Im resting but Im so so cross!
I have no idea what to do about any of this.
But I know I dont want them there at Bs birthday. Im fed up with their selfish horrible ways.
They are pleasant enough to speak to. I have forgiven them a lot because they never did make a fuss about my disability or the fact I came with 2 children to the marriage, saying that it was richards choice but somehow that doesnt feel enough now.
am I too steroidy to think straight or have I missed the point?
Jenni xx
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